My so called “Day off” is consumed with and by my Son, Austin. I am so fortunate that I have a day all to my son, and enjoy every second of it. We have his a.m. school teacher from about 10:00 -11:00 a.m. and then in the evening we have school from 6:00-7:30 p.m. During our free time on Monday’s, I try to entertain him as much as I can, and try to get things done around my house that I need to get done. So, when I get Austin down for his nap, I try to clean as much as I can, so I don’t have to do it during the rest of the week. Inevitability, I can’t do everything, so of course I feel like I don’t get much accomplished during the week. But, I can’t be so hard on myself, because I have tried to do as much as I can, and that’s all I can do.
I struggle to keep my house neat/clean/and tidy as much as I can, but with feeling like I am the only one doing anything around the house, it’s really hard. I feel I get hardly any help doing the simple things, and the things that need to be done on a daily routine basis. I struggle with my husband to get him to do much of anything, if anything lately. He claims I just complain, because he feels what he does is never good enough, nor up to my standards. I disagree with that. I appreciate what he does do when he does it, but maybe it’s because he doesn’t really ever see to do much without me saying something, and that’s why I feel I am so hard on him for it.
With that being said, I feel he has much more time during the week that he could be helping me around the house, but he doesn’t seem to do much at all. He seems to worry about himself, and the things that make him happy, rather than worry about his family, and helping us out so that we can have time together during the week.
My Husband’s schedule certainly allows him to be more cooperative around the house, and here’s why I say that. He works 5 – 8hr days. He gets up at 5:00 a.m. and gets home at 4:00 p.m. He’s got a total of over 2 ½ hours before we even arrive home Tues-Friday to help with the chores. Instead of him being willing to do something that would consist of work, he rather sit on his x-box 360 and play that stupid thing that rots your brain cells for 2 ½ hours. Okay, I can maybe see taking an hour of that time to yourself, but don’t be freaking bum and not do anything else for the evening. I mean seriously, in reality of it all how hard would it be to take out the garbage, put the dishes away, sweep the floor, dust, or even vacuum the floor??
I have tried making up a chore list, and having him check off what he’s done to show me he can be willing to help, and actually partake in the work efforts with me on a 50/50 basis but, that’s failed. I have asked him for ideas, but he has come up with Zippo. I am out of ideas, out of options. What do I do? Sometimes think to myself that I should just call a cleaning service. HA, that would require money, which I don’t have right now.
I wish to God, that he would be more willing to change his ways, but is that even possible for a man like my husband??
Any advice on this one, I would be willing to take it!!
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Oh Christy welcome to a wife's world...I'll tell you what finally worked for me. I finally snapped a bolt and yelled at Adam to start helping me. I actually made a list of everything in the household that needs to get taken care of on a regular basis then forced him to tell me which of the 50 items on the list he took care of. When he came up empty handed I asked him why I should have to take care of everything. Keep in mind I work 2 jobs, have 2 kids and go to school. I explained to him that I thought marriage was a partnership and I felt like a servant. At any rate he got the picture and finally started pitching in. I can't say we're split 50/50 but we are a solid 65/35 and improving.
I am glad that the whole list thing helped you out. I have tried that with Brent, but I am coming up empty handed. Maybe, just maybe, I could try it again, and see where it gets me. I totally get the whole work/kid/school schedule. I am lucky if I get 3 hours when I get home to do something, before we hit the sack and start all over again. Thanks for the advice, and I am glad that Adam's helping you out more and things are on the up and up!
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